Dating again after becoming a widow
So, at age 39, after seven years of marriage, I was no longer married; I was a widow.And this, the only appropriate designation, felt hard-earned.ONE MARCH AFTERNOON IN 2010, I logged on to Facebook and glanced at my relationship status.My 42-year-old husband, Frank, had been dead for a month, but it still said "Married." Then, in a surreal, only-in-the-21st-century moment, I changed it to "Widowed." I hesitated, but I had to do it: No word but .Widowhood also has had a strange sanctifying effect on how men perceive me.
Other men, once they learned of my history, avoided me altogether.A chaplain led me by the hand to her office, and I sank to the floor, crying, deeply sad--and guilt-ridden--that I had not been with him at the very end.