Canadian teen dating
Here is how 14-year-old Catherine started going out with the guy who is now her boyfriend.At recess one day, her best friend yelled over to the unsuspecting boy, “Catherine wants to snog!Group dating is also a way for kids to circumvent a parental ban on dating.Becoming a “couple” Don’t panic, but the experts say “going out” often begins in grade five, with one or two couples in a class.“That’s just in the movies,” says Brett, 14, of Aurora, Ont.“What happens in real life is you’ll be hanging out with your immediate circle of friends, including your girlfriend, and you go, ‘What’s everybody doing Friday night?“At this age we’re always fighting with our parents, so we need to feel we’re loved.” She’s quick to add that while she and her boyfriend love each other, they’re not . ” This is the new world of teen dating, and it can be almost unrecognizable to many parents.Long gone is the tradition where a boy phones a girl on Tuesday to ask her out for Saturday, picks her up at her house, meets the parents, pays for dinner and a show, and sees her home.
These types of short-lived pairings — relationships in name only — jump in numbers by grades six and seven, when alcohol increasingly becomes part of many parties.
Eleven-year-old Charles, a bright, sociable, engaging sixth-grader in the Toronto area, was shocked to hear last spring that a buddy’s school in a nearby town would be hosting a grade-five dance.
“I think that’s just ridiculous,” says Charles, who doesn’t feel ready for that kind of intimacy with girls.
“If I get bored [on a date], my friends keep things interesting,” Katie says.
The downside for parents: You may not even be aware that your child has a boyfriend or girlfriend.
“This ‘liquid courage,’ which is far more common than other drugs, makes kids get over their natural modesty and social awkwardness,” says Kim Martyn, a long-time sexual health educator in Toronto.